Thursday, February 22, 2007

Would you steal what you believe is “your right”?

I believe there is no standards in what is ethical and what is not, what is your right, what is mine, what is your company’s right , what is the manger’s right, what are the employee’s rights , parent’s rights, the girlfriend’s rights, the boyfriend’s rights, brother’s rights …

Of course humanity has agreed on many, but it still defers from a culture to another, a city to another and even on the individuals level …

I am talking about the unwritten rights/rules that manage our behavior and everyday activities …

I remember that when I was younger I was struggling to find out the secret standard rights/rules, I found some, created others and there are still vague ones …

I realized that I simply can’t afford following all the announced rules of our society …

I always had the need to announce my rights/rules although I think that no one has the right to judge me… (Not logical)

Back to the original subject: since everyone plays by his rules, is it ok to steal “your right”? Do you have to announce your rules? Would others be able to play if they don’t know your area? Is what you believe necessarily fair?

8 comments:

adel said...

though i can answer non of your questions, i like the way you posed them.

Natasha said...

I am glad you like it :)

Dandoosh said...

Nattoosh
Not the first time…
You amaze me with your deep posts...
I guess I got some...
You have right to announce your Rights/ Rules… but make sure that your rules and Rights won't affect others People Rights…

Rights are most important...
Announce them without hesitation and make sure to keep others right in these announcements
You can say that sometimes announcing your rules will be others right …
It’s something complicated, but still you can simplify it … nothing impossible
You can start with me 

Devil's Mind said...

I guess I am adding my contribution late, but I agree to the "stealing" your rights: Robin Hood style. If someone has taken whats fairly yours unlawfully, then there should be no ethical dilemma if you take it back - by whatever means.

Following the above line of thought, I think that one can retain not only his material items, but even other kinds of rights. For example, if society takes away some of one's rights, by unfairly labeling them as bad\obscene\whatever, it should be okay to sneakily practice such rights.

Natasha said...

Devil’s mind,
I agree with you when it comes to society, but not when it comes to close relations such as close friends, married couples or work partners. Maybe I don’t want to be in such a close relationship with someone if I knew all the things he/she does and thinks that are right … It can be unfair sometimes…

And even when it comes to society, I love it when people fight for their socially not accepted rights; those are the people who make the change and it is time for our society to learn to accept that everyone has the right to choose his rules …

But again” I love it” I do it sometimes but I can’t do it all the time.. I hope I’ll get stronger one day ;)

Devil's Mind said...

"Maybe I don’t want to be in such a close relationship with someone if I knew all the things he/she does and thinks that are right … It can be unfair sometimes… - I don't see whats the problem you are talking about.. Maybe you can clarify with an example.

But anyways, I don't a problem if you ask your partner (boyfriend\husband\friend\buddy) what he believes. After all, you can choose to be in relationship, and also can choose to opt-out.

Why would you marry a guy who believes that extra-marital affairs are okay?! It doesn't make sense. Why not marry a guy who doesn't want to have extra-marital affairs in the first place?!

Natasha said...

The point is that If one believes it ok to steal his/her right then he’ll just do it no matter what the partner thinks.

Example, a girl thinks that it is ok if she goes out with her x-boyfriend; she knows that her current boyfriend wouldn’t like it, so she does it behind his back; she believes it is her right and she steals it!

Another example, your company gives you money to buy some equipment for your work, you manage to get a better price, and you decide that the extra money is your right, so you take them without telling anyone…

One more example: her parents won’t let her go out with a guy before getting married, she believes it is her right, and she doesn’t want to get married the traditional way, so she goes out with the guy without telling them..

In my opinion, when it comes to society and conservative families you can steal your right because you didn’t choose them and, and they usually tend to enforce their rules..

But when it comes to partners who chose each other there is no room for that, one should be honest and if he strongly believes in something he should be ready to lose his partner for it or compromise …

Devil's Mind said...

"But when it comes to partners who chose each other there is no room for that," - Exactly! Why would a girl choose to be with a guy who will not tolerate her behavior?!

If she wants to date guys, there are many guys who wouldn't mind that... Why would she choose a guy who doesn't tolerate dating?!

Its like a gay guy, choosing a homophobic person as a friend.

Some people obtain satisfaction by lying and deceiving. This is a dilemma that we cannot avoid, but for the most part, honesty would resolve much of the problems.